This letter needs no specification of a sender or receiver. It is not from me or from you. It could be from anyone. It is not to any one person, but rather to many people. It is to and from every one of our hearts. 


Dear human being,

I want to write to you so I can let you know that you have let me down. I could write the words over and over again, but I realize it changes nothing. I could scream it at the top of my lungs and let the world know how you have hurt me, but the past will not hear me or pay me any mind. I could hate you. I could keep that hatred for you deep inside of me and let it hide there safely as a reminder of the pain you brought me. But I am the only one who knows that it exists and lets it eat away at my heart, so why create it?

I was your friend. I was your family. I was your lover. You are a person that could have been any number of things to me. Heartbreak plays no favorites when it chooses people in life to let you down. I really always had faith in you. I trusted you and the promises that you made to me. I believed in your aspirations and disregarded your ambiguity. I let you in, against my best wishes. I relentlessly defended you. I saw the beautiful parts of who you were. I made plans with you and kept them in my head like a guaranteed magnificent destination.  I loved you. I gave you all that I had and now I am left feeling empty and cheated. But do you know what the strangest and most unbelievably frustrating part of all of this is? I forgive you.

You and I are different people, but in the end we are the same. We are only human. As humans, we let each other down. We promise love before we know what it really means. We abuse trust. We break hearts. We make mistakes. I have made my fair share of mistakes as well. I’m sure I have hurt you too. I know there are parts of you that I will never truly understand and therefore cannot fit into the small boxes of reasoning that I have tried to place around these complex situations. I know that there was a reason why I believed in you, and therefore there is a reason why I still want the absolute best for you. Friendship, family, and relationships seem so well defined with their expectations, but very rarely are all of those expectations going to be met. That is the chance you take in believing in people. In the end, loving each other only teaches us about love, as a separate and beautiful entity that is unparalleled to anything else in this world.

You could be a lover, friend, parent, child, or borderline stranger. Whoever you are, I want you to know that you have hurt me, but I forgive you. I don’t forgive you because it makes me feel like a good person. I don’t forgive you because I don’t want to deal with the recognition of your actions. I don’t forgive you because I have forgotten. On the contrary, I forgive you because I remember. I remember that you are a human and humans teach each other in both positive and negative ways. I remember that you brought me memories and emotions that made me feel alive. I remember that if you were worth my trust and love, you are worth my forgiveness and I am worth the relief of being able to let go. I know I am strong and alive, and free to experience all depths of love and loss. I am blessed for the moments that I have and the moments that I have lost. You are a piece of me, and that piece will not eat away at my soul like hatred would. It will live inside of me in a place that is preserved by forgiveness, happiness and humility. And for that I will be a better person going forward.

P.S. Forgiveness will make the future kinder to the both of us.

Sincerely,

Another human being


For More Open Letters of the Heart–

An Open Letter to Anyone Who’s Lost Someone Too Soon

An Open Letter to the Man Who Broke My Heart

An Open Letter to the Child I’ll Adopt One Day

An Open Letter to My College Self

An Open Letter To My Birth Parents

An Open Letter To My Anxious Mind


 

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17 Comments

  • lindseymshak
    Posted March 28, 2014 2:38 am 0Likes

    This was everything that I needed to come across right now. You formed in words what I have been trying to verbalize for months now. I appreciate this post more than you could imagine.

  • remccrory
    Posted March 28, 2014 5:56 am 0Likes

    Reblogged this on This is Me….

  • lifeasaninfj
    Posted March 28, 2014 6:51 pm 0Likes

    Reblogged this on lifeasaninfj's Blog.

  • cjm141
    Posted March 28, 2014 9:58 pm 0Likes

    Thank you….

  • Sarah Mills
    Posted March 29, 2014 2:15 am 0Likes

    This is such a beautiful entry, so inspiring! Thank you for posting this 🙂

  • wingedseraphsofheaven
    Posted March 29, 2014 9:32 pm 0Likes

    Reblogged this on My Life, As A Story.

  • leabee8
    Posted June 5, 2014 7:31 am 1Likes

    Reblogged this on Scintilla of Wisdom and commented:
    This week I’m talking about relationships for my project. I used this letter a while back for a women’s group I was co-facilitating. I had worksheets and activities planned for the almost three hour group. At the end I read this letter out loud to the group and they all had the same reaction. Almost an “ah ha” moment”. They said if I all I done that day was read this letter, it all would have made sense to them. This is an amazing letter 🙂 I’m going to ask my participants their views on forgiveness and how it works in relationships. Stay tuned!

  • grace
    Posted February 23, 2015 8:21 pm 0Likes

    when i read this letter i realise i need to forgive and forget..thank you..i copy this and share.

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    Posted April 9, 2015 11:10 am 0Likes

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  • Kareesha
    Posted April 26, 2015 2:15 am 0Likes

    This article is beautiful. It really touched my soul.

  • Diana M.
    Posted May 18, 2015 11:52 am 1Likes

    Beautiful words from a beautiful person! <3 I have shared this!

  • shilpagandotra
    Posted June 9, 2015 11:09 am 1Likes

    I had read this many months ago but did not share for fear of being looked at by my dearest friend as someone who is preaching, yet surprisingly today that same friend shared this, well if we both forgive and turely understand the meaning of forgiveness, if we truely know that as humans we are both not perfect and can never fit a ‘boxed’ reasoning, it gives me hope that one day things will be better between us.
    Amazing words written by a total stranger might help mend ways and save a relationship of two very close people! God bless!

  • shilpagandotra
    Posted June 9, 2015 11:14 am 0Likes

    I had read this months back but did not share as I thot a dear friend I wanted to send this to might feel offended as always happens between us. Surprisingly today that same dear friend shared this message. It gives me hope,an article written by a total stranger might help mend ways between two very dear friends. If we truely understand that no one can fit into a predefined box of expectations and are truely willing to forgive then there is hope for love to survive. There is hope for only better times ahead. God bless!

  • Emmy
    Posted July 6, 2015 2:27 pm 0Likes

    There are those situations where someone you don’t know well has wronged you. You would like
    to think it surely isn’t important. But unfortunetly it is. Just bc I wouldn’t wrong you that way apparently means nothing. Add money to it and it gets much worse. Because I paid you for fairness. Not to be
    pooped on. As my Grandpa and Uncle always said. The quicker you forgive the longer you will love and live. They both lived into their 90s. I always feel better to get away quickly. Why waste time when someone just doesn’t care.

  • aish
    Posted July 7, 2015 4:56 pm 0Likes

    ur ryt sweet nd tnx 4mkng me to feel dat nobdy s perfct unls u 4gv nd 4gt.

  • Liv Wagner
    Posted March 23, 2016 3:36 am 0Likes

    This letter has helped me through so many hardships. Whether it be little or big, this makes me see why I have to forgive. Thank you for this.

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